​In a society that often celebrates the loudest voices and the most extravagant displays, the quiet strength of humility can seem out of place. Yet, it is precisely this trait that has the power to connect us deeply to ourselves and to others. Humility is not about diminishing our achievements or downplaying our worth. Rather, it is about recognizing our strengths and flaws with grace and understanding that every person we meet has a story and value that enriches the world.

Humility is the quality of being modest and respectful. It is an acknowledgment that no one is superior or inferior, but that we all have unique qualities and contributions. Unlike pretentiousness, which seeks to inflate one's importance, humility fosters an environment of equality and mutual respect.

Some may mistake humility for weakness, but it is, in fact, a powerful force. Humble people possess an inner strength that allows them to remain grounded, even in the face of success. They are open to learning, willing to admit mistakes, and able to build authentic connections with others. This strength is reflected in their ability to listen more than they speak, to uplift others rather than seeking constant affirmation, and to approach life with a sense of gratitude and curiosity.

 Julia’s Journey: A Tale of Humility

In my book “Tracks of Our Tears”, Julia embodies the essence of humility. Her character is a testament to the strength and beauty of being humble. Despite the challenges and adversities she faces, Julia remains grounded. She navigates her world with a quiet confidence, understanding that her worth is not measured by outward accolades but by her inner resolve and kindness.

Julia’s humility is beautifully captured in a profound moment with Stanley:

 “Julia gathered her belongings and Stanley graciously took hold of the suitcase to assist her while gently guiding her to the rear entrance of the old church. Despite her usual skepticism, she felt Stanley’s genuine compassion immediately and followed his lead past the meagre flowerbeds bearing no more than a few wilted bushes. 
They stood defiantly against the slowly advancing weeds from the stark surrounding grass. The signs of wither were evident, no doubt having endured the end of a stifling hot summer, but at least they had been recently trimmed, so someone must still care. 
These were definitive signs of deprivation, and nature’s endless struggle against it for balance and survival. It is often said the strongest weed in the ground is the one growing between the cracks of the concrete; that applied to people as well. 
Stanley pressed the latch and pulled against the heavy weight of the door to the service entrance, politely holding it open for Julia to pass. She thought silently about the simple act, not remembering anyone ever extending such a courteous gesture toward her. Once inside, the slight odor of the old church was familiar, reminding Julia again of times long lost.”

This scene highlights Julia's humility through her reaction to Stanley's kindness. Despite her usual skepticism and tough exterior, she is surprised and deeply moved by his simple, courteous act of holding the door open. Julia’s humility is shown in her ability to graciously accept help, recognizing and appreciating the kindness in others even when it catches her off guard. It is a powerful reminder of the impact small gestures of compassion can have, and how humility allows us to see and value the good in those around us.

Cultivating humility involves a delicate balance of gratitude, active listening, and a willingness to admit our own mistakes. It’s about celebrating the achievements of others, staying curious, and understanding that every person has a unique story and value. By embracing humility, we create a supportive and collaborative environment where mutual respect flourishes. This inner strength, rooted in humility, enables us to navigate life with a sense of grace and authenticity, fostering deeper connections and a more meaningful existence.

Humility is not about thinking less of ourselves but thinking of ourselves less. It is about finding strength in our vulnerabilities and connecting with others on a genuine level. By embracing humility, we create a world where respect, kindness, and understanding flourish. In *Tracks of Our Tears*, Julia's humble spirit serves as a beacon of light, reminding us that true greatness lies not in shouting the loudest but in the quiet strength of a humble heart.


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Pretentiousness often gets a bad rap. It's typically seen as a negative trait, an insult hurled at those perceived to be putting on airs or striving to be something they’re not. But is being pretentious really so terrible? When we peel back the layers of this much-maligned characteristic, we find a fascinating paradox: our culture both criticizes and celebrates pretentiousness.

Think about the television shows we binge-watch. Many of the characters we find most compelling are unabashedly pretentious. Whether it’s their extravagant lifestyles, sophisticated tastes, or lofty ambitions, these characters draw us in precisely because they live larger-than-life existences. We read books about such characters, drawn to their audacity and flair.

Our fascination with pretentiousness extends to our own lives. We meticulously curate our Instagram feeds with pictures of gourmet meals, fine wines, and exotic vacations. The hashtag #blessed often accompanies these posts, a subtle nod to our desire to be envied. We invest in luxury brands, whether in clothing or cars, to elevate our status and project an image of success. This performative aspect of our lives is a form of pretentiousness that we not only accept but actively engage in.

Why, then, do we claim to despise pretentiousness? Is it a bid to appear humble or relatable? Do we fear the judgment of friends and acquaintances if we openly embrace our aspirational selves? Perhaps it's a mix of both. There’s a societal expectation to downplay our successes and ambitions, to avoid seeming arrogant or out of touch. Yet, deep down, many of us revel in the very behaviors we outwardly condemn.

In my book, "Tracks of Our Tears," the character Marta embodies this complex interplay of pretension and authenticity. Marta’s life is a tapestry of ambition and appearance, constantly weaving between genuine desires and societal expectations. Her journey reflects our own struggles with pretentiousness—both in how we perceive ourselves and how we wish to be perceived by others.

For instance, consider this scene from the book:

“Please let me take your coat, Marta,” Richard kindly offered. “My, my, it is indeed a lovely one. May I ask, is this mink?” he enquired inquisitively.

“Actually, I don’t think so. Truth be told I think it's chinchilla, although I don’t even know what kind of animal that is. I don’t suppose I could even tell the difference.”

Pietra interjected enthusiastically, “Nothing but the very best for Auntie. We are in the presence of German royalty, Uncle Richard.”

“Not at all!” Marta chided embarrassingly.
This exchange highlights Marta’s complex relationship with pretentiousness. Despite her luxurious coat and her niece's exuberant praise, Marta feels a pang of embarrassment. Her discomfort reveals the tension between enjoying finer things and the fear of being perceived as pretentious.

Marta’s story invites readers to question their own attitudes towards pretentiousness. Is it inherently bad to aspire for more, to showcase our achievements and tastes? Or is it simply a natural part of the human experience, a way to connect, compete, and carve out our place in the world?

As you read "Tracks of Our Tears," consider Marta’s relationship with pretentiousness. Reflect on your own experiences and the cultural narratives that shape your views. Perhaps you’ll find that pretentiousness, far from being a flaw, is a fascinating facet of our complex personalities—a trait that, when embraced with self-awareness, can lead to a richer, more authentic life.
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​As I dive into the second edition of From Promise to Peril, meticulously editing chapter 12, I'm transported back to the opulence of Berlin's high-end venues, particularly the terrace at Café Romanisches, a favorite spot of my characters Anna and Marta. This elegant café, with its sophisticated ambiance, brings to mind a cherished personal haven: the patio at the Drake Hotel in Prince Edward County. Here, I've spent countless evenings savoring a glass of Pinot Grigio with my daughters, surrounded by the same blend of luxury and comfort that defines both settings. Join me as I explore the parallels between these two special places and the memories they evoke.